A dildo can be fun and is essential to prepare ourselves, but it doesn't compare to being fucked by a real man. When you play with a dildo, you control the size, position, depth and speed of penetration. When a man fucks you, your will does not matter, he will use you as he pleases. That is scary and can be painful at first, but it is also exciting and extremely satisfying when a man imposes his will on you and makes you feel that you are his property.